marriage of minds! a mockery

My friends were getting married and I could see their faces reflecting a happiness never seen before. But more than sharing their happiness, weddings have turned out to be occasions to show off the family grandeur. Well it is really important on a psychological level to look your best on this BIG day, and make it a pompous affair. But is that marriage is all about? I was also one of those simple gals with dreams of a beautiful marriage in her cards. And if not for Kavya, I wouldn’t be putting across my thoughts on such a topic as a wedding.

Well just look around you. How many of them do you think remain married because they felt a need for each other’s company? Mary wanted to marry John because she felt so insecure about John getting attracted to other women. Does that mean he is not going to see other women if he gets married! Geetu wanted to marry the rich Ajay so that she wouldn’t have to go for work after marriage. Would she be happy with the tag of ‘a woman with no brains’? Mohan wanted to marry Santi coz he wanted his physical desires to be fulfilled. Is Santhi going to be enough for him?

Marriages stemming out from a deep sense of insecurity – emotional, financial, physical, the list is endless. If I found a couple whose in-depth love for each other culminated in a marriage, then I have a reason to be happy.

Marriage is a responsibility. A responsibility to love another human being more than yourself. A responsibility to let yourself grow just as the relationship would.

So why do we have to dilute it with all the masala? The kilos of gold that tend to pull you down, the legal contracts which give it more of a legal liability than a liability out of love. If you look up the literal meaning of marriage, it is translated as as a social union or a legal contract between individuals. Cant we, the so called young generation with modern thoughts open our mind to redefine the very word marriage?

Where the idea of a marriage stems out from a deep desire to be with your beloved than to satisfy the desires of the society

Where dowry of a woman is defined by a good character and the right attitude and not the number of cars given or the jewellery worn.

Where 2 individuals stay together not because they are bound by law but because they are bound by love.